To the Mom Who Shamed Me For Letting My Daughter Be A Cheerleader (Published In Kveller)

cheerleading“How can you let your daughter be a cheerleader? I mean, you’re a professional, educated woman! How could you want THAT for your child?”

It took me longer than I care to admit to process that comment and get over it. I normally don’t care what others think, but this stranger at a party really struck a nerve. I guess I was caught off guard because we were just making small talk at a fundraising event, while supposedly on our best and most charitable behavior. The last thing I expected when she asked about my teen’s extracurricular activities was negative commentary and judgment regarding my parenting skills.

Education aside, I was dumbstruck and rendered uncharacteristically mute, unable to address the merit of her statement because I was too blown away by her presumptuous rudeness. Would she have blasted another parent for allowing a child to play a dangerous sport such as football or rugby? Or for condoning their choice to join a particular religious or political club?



One Reply to “To the Mom Who Shamed Me For Letting My Daughter Be A Cheerleader (Published In Kveller)”

  1. I have always said that our big mouths are our biggest enemies. Your grandfather was famous for saying that God gave us 2 ears and one mouth, i.e. we should listen twice as much as we speak. For every loud mouth there is the thoughtful and measured silence emanating from the other side (“the sound of silence”).

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